Pregnancy Update + Gender Reveal

Can you believe we are halfway there to welcoming our second child!? Time once again is flying by and I’m so happy we’re officially sharing the sex of the baby (please don’t scroll down…)

With my first pregnancy we waited to find out the sex on the half-way sonogram until we were able to see the little guy on the screen, but this time around our doctor offered us a little non-invasive test (called NIPT) that screens for genetic disorders and will also tell you your baby’s gender which is a nice bonus. I had some blood drawn around 11 weeks into the pregnancy and we were told to expect the results 7-10 days later. I called my doctors office exactly 8 days later and was happy to hear that they had received results the previous day (asking myself why no one had called me yet!?). Tommy and I were both so excited to find out the gender so early on and it makes the whole pregnancy and preparation so much more real!

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And now without further ado… we are having a BABY GIRL!!! I cannot tell you guys how excited I am and how blessed I feel to be a mommy to a daughter. Growing up with a sister and no cousins I’ve only ever known a family dynamic with girls and just always saw myself having a girl. So even before we had Luca my wish for a daughter had been very strong and now that this dream is becoming reality soon still gives me the most joyous feeling. I even had to ask again at our following check-up after the nurse told me the good news over the phone to make sure it was a girl, I really could’t believe it!

I’m so excited to see Tommy being a daddy to our sweet baby girl and for me to finally buy all the cute clothes and accessories ( I may have already bought like a few things, just a few though lol). Not to say you can’t dress your boy cute but let’s be honest about the boys selection in any children’s store and they sure don’t “need” as many things as girls.

I’m officially 20 weeks today and I can’t wait to see how baby girl will look like. In my opinion Luca is a very good blend between the both of us with my blonde hair and my husband’s dark eyes.

I terms of names we had already picked one out in my first pregnancy and we still love it, so we are going to get to use it now!

Stay updated about my second trimester post as I get closer and closer!

Here’s a little throwback to some old pictures of Tommy and I!

 

Thanks for stopping by!

xoxo, Lisa

1st Trimester Update

I have to say I’ve been very spoiled by experiencing an amazing first pregnancy with Luca, so the struggle with my first trimester in this pregnancy, which has been completely different, has been real! I am now 16 weeks pregnant and looking back it’s almost like with the birth, you know it was horrible but you really don’t remember how bad it actually was.

Nausea:

We found out pretty early on around 5 weeks probably and almost a week later my tiredness, exhaustion, and “morning” sickness that lasted on and off all day kicked it with some throwing up. All that is probably manageable but trying to run after your crazy active toddler, going to work and traveling out of the country twice had been harder than expected. I was also still nursing through week 9 of this pregnancy which I think made me even more exhausted. What helped me was snacking when the first hint of nausea hit and trying to lay down. Whenever Luca took his naps I would try to also rest or nap and leave the household for later when I was feeling better. Eating was sometimes hard for me though because I got some random food aversion and after a few bites of my food would have to stop. So I just tried to munch on small portions throughout the day.

1st OB visits:

Our first visit was basically just to confirm the pregnancy, to measure the baby, estimate our due date, and take some blood tests. We also got to hear the heart beat and see the tiny little thing. The next appointment we were offered and informed about some tests like the NIPT (Noninvasive prenatal testing) which we ended up doing. This is a blood test to screen for Down Syndrome and other gene defects and will also tell you the gender, which got me very excited. And yes, we already know but will keep it our secret just for a little longer. Other than that I had a full physical and pap smear and so far all is looking good and healthy.

Bump:

While I didn’t show until about 20 weeks in my first pregnancy this muscle memory thing is real! I’ve started showing way early and around week 13 the bump has made its appearance. I’m lucky to live in Texas where it’s still basically summer and will keep on wearing my loose fitted dresses until it’s sweater weather. Many tight or skinny jeans or even high-waisted shorts I’ve had to retire and I’m making full use out of my belly band, which is a lifesaver during 1st and 2nd trimester when you just won’t fit in your old pants but are not big enough to fill out those maternity ones just yet. We recently moved and it gave me the perfect opportunity to go through all my old maternity clothes and so far I’ve been really good about not buying anything for myself except one pair of basic black bump friendly leggings. Which I cant say for baby clothes, but I promise it’s under 10 items so far!

Active:

To be completely honest I’ve been the laziest those first three months but when you’re not feeling well it’s almost impossible to get moving. Even though I haven’t been working out in a traditional way, I use the opportunity to take Henry (our dog) and Luca on walks, go to the park, chase this crazy toddler of mine, or ride the bike in our neighborhood. I already feel out of breath though when there’s the smallest little rise in height. For my weight I started with the same as with my first pregnancy and up to week 13 had gained about 6 lbs.

All in all it it is true about different baby different pregnancy! Especially now that it’s my second one and I’m so busy with our 16 month old most if the time I don’t even know which week we’re in or what is going on with the baby (you know how you check which fruit or vegetable your baby is week to week and what new developments have been happening). That doesn’t mean I’m any less excited, time once again is just going by so fast and I already know that February 27th will be here in no time! Also fun fact Baby Schober #2 will arrive exactly 2 months before Luca turns 2! I’m getting very excited to reach our half way milestone here in a month and then get to see the baby on the screen finally. Also started to feel the first little flutters in my belly which make me smile so big.

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Soon to be big brother!

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More in our 2nd trimester update in a few months. Trying to enjoy this amazing journey of becoming a family of four early next year and soaking up every moment with my sweet boy while he is still an only child.

xo,

Lisa

 

 

5 Tips on Being Confident in Your Skin Post Baby

I cannot believe Luca’s 1st birthday is creeping up so much faster than I can handle it and with that it’s been almost a year for my body to recover from carrying an 8lbs 2oz baby plus placenta, extra water etc etc… I had gained a total 34 lbs. before giving birth and even though I’m still young I knew it would take some work to get back to where I was pre-pregnancy. First and foremost, I have to say I am blessed with my momma’s great genes and basically didn’t get any stretchmarks during pregnancy. I also rubbed a lot of oil all over my belly trying to trick my skin into thinking massaging it will help. Additionally, I tried to stay active throughout even if it was just walks with my dog, anything that got my heart going. SO, with all that said here are a few of my tips on how to get back where you can feel like yourself again no matter if it’s your old self or a new and improved self, anything where you are comfortable AND confident!

  1. “The weight takes 9 months to go on, it’s OK if it takes 9 months to lose it” this amazing advice was of course given by my mother and when she told me that, I was thinking oh mother I will be back in shape in a hot second… right. You get really excited in the first week losing about half of your weight because, duh the baby is out, together with all the blood and water weight but then there’s still the uterus trying to go back to its original size and you remember the weekly ice cream runs to your neighborhood super market. And after a while I was coming around thinking it might be a while longer to get to where I wanted to be. So, give yourself TIME!
  2. Supportive partner: I am one of the lucky individuals that married a guy who continually told me that I looked great even when I really felt otherwise. It helped me so much knowing my spouse loves me no matter what and appreciates my body for hosting and growing a tiny human. Even though no partner would hopefully body shame you, but not hearing anything positive can hurt just the same. So, to all the baby daddies out there show your spouse/ baby mama how much you respect and love her for giving you the best gift in life.
  3. Fashion: fake it ‘til you make it! Wearing the right clothes for your postpartum body will do wonders! Everyone knows there are different styles for different bodies when it comes to fashion but you may not know it when you’re left with what feels like a stranger’s body after birth. My usual somewhat smaller self didn’t know how to dress a 20 lbs. heavier body and it took quite some trial and error to figure out what looked flattering and what didn’t. I felt really stressed out when I couldn’t fit back into my old clothes anymore. But until you do choose some loose fitted tops, re-wear some of your maternity items in the beginning and above all be patient with yourself.
  4. Active lifestyle: Just the way it helps to stay active during pregnancy, it obviously helps when you’re trying to lose your baby weight. And I’m not saying go run 5 miles and spent an hour a day in the gym, because who has the time and the energy? But for me it helped tremendously to go on walks. Even just 30 minutes every day made me feel refreshed and brightened up my mood and my spirits. I was never much of a jogger but incorporating some light jogging and ab training at home (YouTube to the rescue) worked wonders. Having a fellow mom-friend or girlfriend is a bonus (dogs count too 😉)
  5. Breastfeeding: I can’t stress this last and most important point enough. I hear about so many women who either are unaware of all the amazing benefits, not just for baby but also for you, or choose not to breastfeed because of aesthetic reasons (according to Dallas Child magazine only 6% of Texas moms report to breastfeed exclusively for the first 6 months). But let’s be honest: I too would like for my boobs to be small and perky again but that is just a small sacrifice for me to give the best nature can offer for my baby. I know it is a hot topic but which mother wouldn’t want the best for her child? And I am not talking about women who can’t produce enough milk. And I know there have been so many times in particular in the beginning where it felt incredibly weird and stressful, after all it’s something you’ve never done before. But despite a clogged duct, and returning to work part-time after 8 weeks, there was never a moment where I didn’t think it wasn’t worth it (I am still nursing now at 10 ½ months and working three times a week). Besides the advantages for the baby, it’s been the most helpful to losing those last stubborn pounds. I even have to be careful now to eat enough to not go under my original weight. And again, it is not all about the weight but about how you feel, but the closeness, the special bond to my son and my body confidence wouldn’t be the same without breastfeeding.

I hope after reading this some soon-to be moms and new moms will at least inform themselves about the incredibly positive things nursing does and I hope no matter what size you are post baby you are able to love the body that has brought new life to this world!

xoxo, Lisa

This is Us

It is finally nap time and no housework to do for once so I’m giving it my best shot to finally write our first blog post after creating my blog almost 2 months ago. I thought it’d be good to introduce ourselves first before I write more about everyday topics; so here we go:

Pictured above is my beautiful little family (minus the fur babies) last December. But let’s go all the way back. My name is Lisa and I was born and raised in a small town in Germany (as in 8,000 residents small). When I was a teenager my dream was always to come and visit the USA and after graduating high school it was finally my time to go. As an Au Pair ( aka foreign exchange nanny) I arrived together with 30 other European girls in New York City and I knew I was about to have the best year of my life. After a week exploring Central Park, Times Square and many visits to Starbucks it was already time to say goodbye to the Big Apple and head to the great state of Texas to meet my host family and my three kids I was going to take care of. Arriving at the airport in Dallas, I was welcomed with hot summer temperatures and felt at home right away (Germans typically like it hot and sunny since we don’t get enough in our area). The former Au Pair of my host family picked me up and showed me the house and my tasks. The family was still on vacation and was going to arrive a day later. That was in July 2011.

Fast forwarding to October the same year when I met my now husband Tommy. In my first few months in Texas I had been living the life and it felt like every day I experienced so many new things, ate Tex-Mex for the first time, meet so many new people, and spent every weekend by the pool (because that’s about all you can do in the summer) and spend every paycheck on clothes and food. One night my friend Tanja, who was also a German Au Pair in her second year in Dallas invited me to watch the 5th game of the Baseball World Series with two guys, one of them being Tommy. We got to his apartment and had a few beers, watched the Rangers loose and had a great time talking and laughing. On the way back home I remember thinking that Tommy was funny and pretty cute. After that night I didn’t see him again until a few weeks later at a soccer game and we again had a great time at a bar we went to after and it was then he declared he was going to be my “American boyfriend”.  In the next months we got to see each other a lot and in February on Valentines Day five years ago now, he finally asked me to be his girlfriend (Justin Timberlake and Nelly may or may not have been played that night ;)).

July 2012 came way too fast and my year in the States was about to end when Tommy started asking me all these life questions, me not knowing what it was all about. We had been trying to figure out ways we could be together but knowing that long term and long distance relationships hadn’t worked out for either of us before, wasn’t an option. I still remember that moment we were driving in his car when he told me about his family doing immigration work and about a certain visa that would allow me to come back a so-called “fiancee-visa”. I looked at him wondering if he was serious. He then told me he had thought about us a lot and didn’t want to live without me and eventually wanted to get married and spend his life with me that’s why he had been asking me all the questions.

This post is getting so much longer than I intended it to be when I sat down (it is now the next day and nap time once again…), I hope you’re equipped with a beverage of some sort and snacks, but to sum up the next few years: I returned home to Germany, told my parents basically the night I arrived I was going to go back to Texas to get married and live there happily ever after. Of course, that’s not what they wanted to hear from their 20-year old youngest daughter, but over the next months while my paperwork was processed they somewhat came to terms with my decisions. In September 2013 I finally packed up my life in Germany in three big bags, said goodbye to friends and family and my home of 19 years. Back in Dallas, I started school, work, we had a beautiful wedding the following April and thought we had life figured out. The ‘original’ plan was for me to finish school, find a great job in the fashion industry and then eventually add a human baby to our two fur babies. But you all know how plans sometimes work out and sooner than we thought I had a missed period and a positive pregnancy test 16 months in our marriage. And then just a few months later we became first-time parents to baby Luca, born in April 2016. I want to include more detailed posts to certain parts between then and now but that gives you a little overview about our family. To add a few words about my husband, he his born and raised in Dallas, growing up with a diverse family environment with a Peruvian mom and dad with roots in Germany, Sicily, and Ireland. As I mentioned before he is funny (sometimes too funny for his own good), caring, and incredibly hard working partner and dad and I couldn’t do this motherhood thing without him.

I want to thank everyone who has made it this far into our post and hope you are having a great week. I am very excited to start planning and writing more posts about fashion, motherhood, diy projects, and some travel.

xoxo, Lisa